Four Ways to Start Valuing Yourself Properly

Tips to help you realize your self-worth

When it comes to your relationship with yourself, you can be your own best friend or biggest enemy. It doesn’t matter how many people you know. You will always be in attendance, making it the most important one on the list. But do you know why?

Like my mother used to say, “no matter where you go your there”. Took me a long time to understand that one. At its core, it simply says you are the center of every experience you are having and the value of the experience is directly to your knowledge of your worthy not to the value of the experience.

Value and Worthy are not the same. Value is determined by someone need of the item in the market. Worthy is the value (small v) of something measured by its qualities. Gold has Value because it is rare, gold also has worthy because of its physical properties. Golds worthy, physical properties, do not change due to the Value on the price displayed on Commodities Market.

Because self-worth ultimately comes from within, the value you place on yourself is the only type of worth you can control.

This concept can be tricky to grasp, especially when there isn’t a blueprint for valuing yourself. To get you started, here are four ways to think about — and improve — your self-worth.

Compare yourself to no one.

Defining your worth from outside sources is a subconscious way of comparing yourself to specific standards set by others. When you compare yourself to others, you’re measuring your worth by their terms. Instead of measuring your worth based on another person’s scale, concentrate on what is meaningful to you, whether that’s being balanced, being a kind person, or living a faith tradition. Make your own standards.

Embrace your mistakes, and learn from them.

It’s normal for people to cringe at past blunders and faults. For most, these mistakes elicit feelings of shame and regret. But like most things, it depends on how you look at it. Though we can’t change the past, we can control how we handle those mistakes. Our life is full of opportunities. One can even say that life itself is one big opportunity.

Take opportunities to develop yourself.

It can be tricky to find opportunities for development. The key is to simply pay attention to what is around you. For starters, read books and blogs on topics that are meaningful to you. Seek out events, lectures, and workshops on subjects you care about. Find time to practice a hobby, no matter how busy you are. Write a stream of consciousness, and don’t even stop for punctuation. Meditate and reflect on what you’ve done well (or not so well), and continue to pave that path. Whatever it is that you decide to do, it will fuel your sense of self and ultimately your self-worth.

Share your story with someone you trust.

After all this talk about focusing on one’s self, the thought of sharing seems backward. Offering help, compassion, and thoughts is a way of taking charge of positive opportunities. Much of it has to do with constructive use of those external sources. When we take time to “talk it out” we often discover we are able to work it out and see ourselves in a new light

Regardless of where you are in life, it’s essential to remember that the quest for self-worth never ends. There will always be room to learn more.

I hope these tips will help you create the path to a healthy sense of your true worth. After all, it’s the best thing you can do, honor yourself and your invaluable, unique WORTH.